How Good are You Out of Bed?

How Good are You Out of Bed?

Trusting someone online....

Playing TAGGED.........Trusting someone online....This is a bulletin I posted on a online socail site called TAGGED....Maybe it will help someone out there to realize reality is what is in ront of you..Anyone can be anything online


The worst thing one can do is be in a relationship or getting someone and not being secure enough within themselves FIRST. If I have to go to your page everyday to see who is giving you tags or comments....Then going to thier page and see what you wrote....That is to much damned energy. Then to get a email from some insecure woman asking me what you have said to me...It is the same as going through a purse. wallet, email, pocketsand mail. If I ever feel the need to do that I dont trust him and not putting any energy into it.





Tag is just that TAG..a game..Yes we can meet great people, hopefully laughand learn so much but to many take everything as real life..I DON'T...A phone call or a visit is real..Not what you post to the same 40 people..







Funny thing is that word love flows around here so freely..on tags and comments..Does that person know your habits good n bad, your wants, needs, dreams, desires and hopes. Favorite food, music, color, etc..you know where I am going with this I know..







So tell me how the hell have they fallen in lo9ve with you or you with me for that matter. We all give tags..Some we use a seuctive tool, friendly greeting or a small just thinking of you. But you guys beware (men and women). Some people take those small comments seriously. So be careful...Be safe and cauitious..







Me? Hell put anything I can handle it and don't read into them unless we have talked before and have gotten to know one anothers flirtatous behavior. Some of you make me smile..A lot of you do. It should be fun hell it is TAGGED ;-)







Just dont have your crazy possessive women coming at me asking me about you cause I gave you a tag...Damn....Life is full of crazy people..



But you be careful of those..That is a scary thing

GO BACKS.........I wonder sometimes as potential partners or ex's want me back in their life..

Why? What has happened to make you decide I am the one AGAIN. On line dating has made dating morelike a smorgasbord . They make like what is front of them but as they look to the right there is another tasty looking dish. It may be more physically appealing, smell better and very very enticing. Yet you put it on your plate and once you sit down and begin to taste it..Aghhh you find that first one though maybe not as appealing was much more fulfilling.




I know the competition is crazy out there. I have met so many really nice guys during this tour of online dating. I have had a few relationships (short) only to find that they are not ready to stop looking. Funny thing is I have almost turned into them myself. I guess when a man isn't consistent with me I move on. If he doesn't have time to get to know me I allow myself to still be readily available for someone who has genuine interest AND time.



Then I know friends who will stop and give everything to a man that is playing games and has intention of being in a serious relationship. Not with them anyway.



Now to get back on track. I have met some great men. Been in relationships that didn't work. Yet today those same men that were deceitful in their characters want me back. I guess the grass wasn't greener on the other side.



I have love for them but not willing to retry the past again. Trust is one thing I value and I would rather to go into something new where there is no issue of trust. To go backwards almost means I have given up. If I do that I know I would always have trust issues. It wouldn't be fair to me or them.



Could they show me now they have changed? Maybe..Maybe one day I will learn to let go of the past ..but only as friends. I can still talk to them on the phone and laugh with them.



But to start over again?



Could you? Why would you? Is it a comfort or familiarity thing? Some would say it depends on why you separated. I think people can change but that doesnt mean I am now the right one for them or them for me.



I guess inside I would always think "someone dogged them out" and NOW they want to come back to real. Problem is I am always real...And that is exactly what I want as well. Not to be someone's second choice after they have gotten played.



I try to live by the old saying, " If you keep doing the same thing you get the same results"



So to go back could surely mean I just may get the same results..

Ok This one is pretty graphic..Deep Sea Diving..Eating muff and not kissing..Is it the new norm?

How many times has the : 1) I absolutely love to eat pussy2) I got 9 inches and can rock your world crap really worked for you?


Maybe it worked once, twice andyou got it, She opensher legs,you dive down licking, sucking all that stuff..then..no email,no text,no phone calls returned. Aww come on you know it has happened at least once.

Why keep doing the samething if you want different results. Unless you just like diving into every muff in town. Do you really think that sex is going to make her like you, want you, keep you?

These are linesalmost EVERY man uses to try to get into a womans pants. If you have self confidencehold out.If it is meant it will be.I know I could get a man byraising my skirt but keeping him is another story.I want to know you have self control.I want you to want me out of the bed. Hell every woman has the same anatomy so some are larger, tighter, cute but they are mostly all the same

Same with your partsSmaller ones can work just as good so you bragging on 10 doesnt mean you cant work it.

IMPRESS HER WITH YOUR CONFIDENCE, SENSE OR HUMOR, CHARACTER AND PASSION That is what a real woman wants.....like my male friends say..You can get pussy before you get food. Same for dicks ..they are a dime a dozen. They are NOT magic wands.

You know I love you...Just be careful where you dive

How many of you have given out your number? Waited for that call?Yet it never came...

You push n push...Asking over and over for her to call..You try it all yet it never happens.


Baby...don't get played, don't sound desperate and please don't beg.

That is a setup to get played. That is a setup for you to get hurt. There IS someone for you. If they don't put the same energy in getting to know you move the hell on..Pay attention to your vibes, intuition and gut feeling. Don't disregard it..Trust yourself more than them.
If you are doing all the calling STOP..Let her show you she is just as interested. There are to many good men getting hurt and mistreated putting thier all out there to fast. Even if you don't know what you want, know what you DON'T want.

Don't push your priorities aside for someone..Your kids, job and hobbies. Maintain your likes..Compromise is ok...Changing what you value is not acceptable. If anything keep them as a aquaintance..but keep pushing..If something is meant to be it will be.

I have meet so many good men here. Terrific friends. It is disheartening to hear of those that get hurt. I am guilty myself. I don't intend to mislead anyone..Yes I flirt,,I laugh I joke...But the one I always do is I keep it real.

When the one for me arrives...When the one for me has real time to get to know me...when he isavailable mentally, emotionally and legally, When my heart tells me it is ok to trust and love him ...I will know...

Interracial dating...by Jill Scott

Commentary: Jill Scott Talks Interracial Dating


Friday, March 26, 2010
12:20 PM

by Jill Scott

You know the moment when you realize that fine, accomplished brother is with a White woman? Let's call it "the wince." Three-time Grammy Award-winning artist, writer, actress, philanthropist, mother and all-around Renaissance woman, Jill Scott gets to the root of our feelings on the matter.

My new friend is handsome, African-American, intelligent and seemingly wealthy. He is an athlete, loves his momma, and is happily married to a White woman. I admit when I saw his wedding ring, I privately hoped. But something in me just knew he didn't marry a sister. Although my guess hit the mark, when my friend told me his wife was indeed Caucasian, I felt my spirit...wince. I didn't immediately understand it. My face read happy for you. My body showed no reaction to my inner pinch, but the sting was there, quiet like a mosquito under a summer dress.

Was I jealous? Did the reality of his relationship somehow diminish his soul's credibility? The answer is not simple. One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that's not how I was brought up. I was reared in a Jehovah's Witness household. I was taught that every man should be judged by his deeds and not his color, and I firmly stand where my grandmother left me. African people worldwide are known to be welcoming and open-minded. We share our culture sometimes to our own peril and most of us love the very notion of love. My position is that for women of color, this very common "wince" has solely to do with the African story in America.

When our people were enslaved, "Massa" placed his Caucasian woman on a pedestal. She was spoiled, revered and angelic, while the Black slave woman was overworked, beaten, raped and farmed out like cattle to be mated. She was nothing and neither was our Black man. As slavery died for the greater good of America, and the movement for equality sputtered to life, the White woman was on the cover of every American magazine. She was the dazzling jewel on every movie screen, the glory of every commercial and television show. She was unequivocally the standard of beauty for this country, firmly unattainable to anyone not of her race. We daughters of the dust were seen as ugly, nappy mammies, good for day work and unwanted children, while our men were thought to be thieving, sex-hungry animals with limited brain capacity.

We reflect on this awful past and recall that if a Black man even looked at a White woman, he would have been lynched, beaten, jailed or shot to death. In the midst of this, Black women and Black men struggled together, mourned together, starved together, braved the hoses and vicious police dogs and died untimely on southern back roads together. These harsh truths lead to what we really feel when we see a seemingly together brother with a Caucasian woman and their children. That feeling is betrayed. While we exert efforts to raise our sons and daughters to appreciate themselves and respect others, most of us end up doing this important work alone, with no fathers or like representatives, limited financial support (often court-enforced) and, on top of everything else, an empty bed. It's frustrating and it hurts!

Our minds do understand that people of all races find genuine love in many places. We dig that the world is full of amazing options. But underneath, there is a bite, no matter the ointment, that has yet to stop burning. Some may find these thoughts to be hurtful. That is not my intent. I'm just sayin'.

Jill Scott is a three-time Grammy Award-winning artist, writer, actress, philanthropist and mother.

Mo'Nique Explains Why She Has an Open MarriageOscar and my personal view

nominee Mo'Nique had no qualms about being in an open marriage.


On Sunday's Oscar Night edition of The Barbara Walters Special, the Precious star, 42, says that while she has "not had sex" outside her marriage to husband (and business manager) Sid Hicks, he is free to do so.

"Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That's not a deal-breaker," she says. "That's not something that would make us say, 'Pack your things and let's end the marriage.'"

And she says she wouldn't call it quits even if he had numerous flings.

"What if it's 20 times?" she asks. "So what? We've been best friends for over 25 years, and we truly know who we are. Oftentimes, people get into marriages and they don't know who they're laying next to. I'm very comfortable and secure with my husband."

So how does she keep her husband's interest?

"He loves the hairy legs,” she says, adding that she never shaves. "And if Sid likes the hairy legs, there you go ... I'm 42 and very hairy."

The one time she shaved her legs, "it was so uncomfortable and painful," she recalls. "I said, 'Never again would I do that to myself.'"

http://vodpod.com/watch/3203141-monique-interview-talks-about-precious-hairy-legs-and-marriage

Now my opinion:
I saw an interview in which Mo’Nique talked about being in an open marriage. She says her husband having sex outside the marriage is “No deal breaker”. http://beyondjane.com/family/marriage/open-marriage-or-swinging-would-you-accept-it/


Is this what most people think? Is that why, at 48, I meet many that are willing or into “Alternative lifestyles, Open Marriages and/ or Swinging? Funny thing though they say it is ok and they still love one another they still HIDE affairs. That tells me someone isn’t happy.

I am still old fashioned. I want ONE man that wants and needs only ONE woman in his life. I would not be comfortable or happy knowing he is out there having sex with another woman, doing the same things to her that he does to me. I want to be special. I want to feel special.

I have heard the phrase “Unconditional Love”. Someone once told me that if your love is unconditional you would continue to love your partner regardless of affairs of the heart and body. I think that phrase is being misunderstood. If someone disrespects our relationship I am out. I love to be free and expressive with my partner and that can’t be done if I don’t know where his mouth has been. I won’t feel special If I know he has held another woman in his arms and made ”love” or “had sex” with another.

Has the world really come to this where a person feels the need to accept this BS in order to be in a relationship? I would think someone’s self esteem is low as hell if they accept their partner going outside the relationship to be fulfilled sexually, mental or emotionally.

Mo’Nique is a successful black woman. I know many that are overweight so they succumb to their partners desires, wants and needs even though it may not make them truly happy. Just for the sake of being in a relationship. I remember Star Jones went through that same thing.

I listen to people talk about it and the one thing they ALL have in common is never has one said there were happy. They accept, submit and participate, but not once mention true happiness. As I listened to her interview she never said she was happy. It may have taken alittle longer but she would have found a man that wanted, desired and respected ONY her sexually

Call me old fashioned but the one I will be with I will love his stinky drawers, I will love his bad breathe in the morning and love him before he shaves in the morning. I will wake up to him next to me and KNOW he respects and loves me and our relationship. I would be able to smile inside and out for I have a god man. And he will smile because he knows he has a good woman.

Call me selfish, Call me greedy….But my man will be mine. My man will know I am his.

President Obama Accomplishments!! Silence the critics..Spread the word !

President Obama Accomplishments!!




Silence the critics.


Spread the word!!!



Good to know......One question: Why isn’t this being publicized?



"Robert P. Watson, Ph.D. Coordinator of American Studies

Lynn University" Email: rwatson@lynn.edu



I am always being asked to grade Obama's presidency. In place of offering him a grade, I put together a list of his accomplishments thus far. I think you would agree that it is very impressive. His first six months have been even more active than FDRs or LBJs the two standards for such assessments. Yet, there is little media attention given to much of what he has done. Of late, the media is focusing almost exclusively on Obama's critics, without holding them responsible for the uncivil, unconstructive tone of their disagreements or without holding the previous administration responsible for getting us in such a deep hole. The misinformation and venom that now passes for political reporting and civic debate is beyond description.



As such, there is a need to set the record straight. What most impresses me is the fact that Obama has accomplished so much not from a heavy-handed or top-down approach but from a style that has institutionalized efforts to reach across the aisle, encourage vigorous debate, and utilize town halls and panels of experts in the policy-making process. Beyond the accomplishments, the process is good for democracy and our democratic processes have been battered and bruised in recent years.



Let me know if I missed anything in the list (surely I did).
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1. Ordered all federal agencies to undertake a study and make recommendations for ways to cut spending

2. Ordered a review of all federal operations to identify and cut wasteful spending and practices

3. Instituted enforcement for equal pay for women

4. Beginning the withdrawal of US troops from Iraq

5. Families of fallen soldiers have expenses covered to be on hand when the body arrives at Dover AFB

6. Ended media blackout on war casualties; reporting full information

7. Ended media blackout on covering the return of fallen soldiers to Dover AFB; the media is now permitted to do so pending adherence to respectful rules and approval of fallen soldier's family

8. The White House and federal government are respecting the Freedom of Information Act

9. Instructed all federal agencies to promote openness and transparency as much as possible

10. Limits on lobbyist's access to the White House

11. Limits on White House aides working for lobbyists after their tenure in the administration

12. Ended the previous stop-loss policy that kept soldiers in Iraq/Afghanistan longer than their enlistment date

13. Phasing out the expensive F-22 war plane and other outdated weapons systems, which weren't even used or needed in Iraq/Afghanistan

14. Removed restrictions on embryonic stem-cell research

15. Federal support for stem-cell and new biomedical research

16. New federal funding for science and research labs

17. States are permitted to enact federal fuel efficiency standards above federal standards

18. Increased infrastructure spending (roads, bridges, power plants) after years of neglect

19. Funds for high-speed, broadband Internet access to K-12 schools

20. New funds for school construction

21. The prison at Guantanamo Bay is being phased out

22. US Auto industry rescue plan

23. Housing rescue plan

24. $789 billion economic stimulus plan

25. The public can meet with federal housing insurers to refinance (the new plan can be completed in one day) a mortgage if they are having trouble paying

26. US financial and banking rescue plan

27. The secret detention facilities in Eastern Europe and elsewhere are being closed

28. Ended the previous policy; the US now has a no torture policy and is in compliance with the Geneva Convention standards

29. Better body armor is now being provided to our troops

30. The missile defense program is being cut by $1.4 billion in 2010

31. Restarted the nuclear nonproliferation talks and building back up the nuclear inspection infrastructure/protocols

32. Reengaged in the treaties/agreements to protect the Antarctic

33. Reengaged in the agreements/talks on global warming and greenhouse gas emissions

34. Visited more countries and met with more world leaders than any president in his first six months in office

35. Successful release of US captain held by Somali pirates; authorized the SEALS to do their job

36. US Navy increasing patrols off Somali coast

37. Attractive tax write-offs for those who buy hybrid automobiles

38. Cash for clunkers program offers vouchers to trade in fuel inefficient, polluting old cars for new cars; stimulated auto sales

39. Announced plans to purchase fuel efficient American-made fleet for the federal government

40. Expanded the SCHIP program to cover health care for 4 million more children

41. Signed national service legislation; expanded national youth service program

42. Instituted a new policy on Cuba, allowing Cuban families to return home to visit loved ones

43. Ended the previous policy of not regulating and labeling carbon dioxide emissions

44. Expanding vaccination programs

45. Immediate and efficient response to the floods in North Dakota and other natural disasters

46. Closed offshore tax safe havens

47. Negotiated deal with Swiss banks to permit US government to gain access to records of tax evaders and criminals

48. Ended the previous policy of offering tax benefits to corporations who outsource American jobs; the new policy is to promote in-sourcing to bring jobs back

49.. Ended the previous practice of protecting credit card companies; in place of it are new consumer protections from credit card industry's predatory practices

50. Energy producing plants must begin preparing to produce 15% of their energy from renewable sources

51. Lower drug costs for seniors

52. Ended the previous practice of forbidding Medicare from negotiating with drug manufacturers for cheaper drugs; the federal government is now realizing hundreds of millions in savings

53. Increasing pay and benefits for military personnel

54. Improved housing for military personnel

55. Initiating a new policy to promote federal hiring of military spouses

56. Improved conditions at Walter Reed Military Hospital and other military hospitals

57. Increasing student loans

58. Increasing opportunities in AmeriCorps program

59. Sent envoys to Middle East and other parts of the world that had been neglected for years; reengaging in multilateral and bilateral talks and diplomacy

60. Established a new cyber security office

61. Beginning the process of reforming and restructuring the military 20 years after the Cold War to a more modern fighting force; this includes new procurement policies, increasing size of military, new technology and cyber units and operations, etc.

62. Ended previous policy of awarding no-bid defense contracts

63. Ordered a review of hurricane and natural disaster preparedness

64. Established a National Performance Officer charged with saving the federal government money and making federal operations more efficient

65. Students struggling to make college loan payments can have their loans refinanced

66. Improving benefits for veterans

67. Many more press conferences and town halls and much more media access than previous administration

68. Instituted a new focus on mortgage fraud

69. The FDA is now regulating tobacco

70. Ended previous policy of cutting the FDA and circumventing FDA rules

71. Ended previous practice of having White House aides rewrite scientific and environmental rules, regulations, and reports

72. Authorized discussions with North Korea and private mission by Pres. Bill Clinton to secure the release of two Americans held in prisons

73. Authorized discussions with Myanmar and mission by Sen. Jim Web to secure the release of an American held captive

74. Making more loans available to small businesses

75. Established independent commission to make recommendations on slowing the costs of Medicare

76. Appointment of first Latina to the Supreme Court

77. Authorized construction/opening of additional health centers to care for veterans

78. Limited salaries of senior White House aides; cut to $100,000

79. Renewed loan guarantees for Israel

80. Changed the failing/status quo military command in Afghanistan

81. Deployed additional troops to Afghanistan

82. New Afghan War policy that limits aerial bombing and prioritizes aid, development of infrastructure, diplomacy, and good government practices by Afghans

83. Announced the long-term development of a national energy grid with renewable sources and cleaner, efficient energy production

84. Returned money authorized for refurbishment of White House offices and private living quarters

85. Paid for redecoration of White House living quarters out of his own pocket

86. Held first Seder in White House

87. Attempting to reform the nation's healthcare system which is the most expensive in the world yet leaves almost 50 million without health insurance and millions more under insured (PASSED)

88. Has put the ball in play for comprehensive immigration reform

89. Has announced his intention to push for energy reform

90. Has announced his intention to push for education reform