GO BACKS.........I wonder sometimes as potential partners or ex's want me back in their life..

Why? What has happened to make you decide I am the one AGAIN. On line dating has made dating morelike a smorgasbord . They make like what is front of them but as they look to the right there is another tasty looking dish. It may be more physically appealing, smell better and very very enticing. Yet you put it on your plate and once you sit down and begin to taste it..Aghhh you find that first one though maybe not as appealing was much more fulfilling.




I know the competition is crazy out there. I have met so many really nice guys during this tour of online dating. I have had a few relationships (short) only to find that they are not ready to stop looking. Funny thing is I have almost turned into them myself. I guess when a man isn't consistent with me I move on. If he doesn't have time to get to know me I allow myself to still be readily available for someone who has genuine interest AND time.



Then I know friends who will stop and give everything to a man that is playing games and has intention of being in a serious relationship. Not with them anyway.



Now to get back on track. I have met some great men. Been in relationships that didn't work. Yet today those same men that were deceitful in their characters want me back. I guess the grass wasn't greener on the other side.



I have love for them but not willing to retry the past again. Trust is one thing I value and I would rather to go into something new where there is no issue of trust. To go backwards almost means I have given up. If I do that I know I would always have trust issues. It wouldn't be fair to me or them.



Could they show me now they have changed? Maybe..Maybe one day I will learn to let go of the past ..but only as friends. I can still talk to them on the phone and laugh with them.



But to start over again?



Could you? Why would you? Is it a comfort or familiarity thing? Some would say it depends on why you separated. I think people can change but that doesnt mean I am now the right one for them or them for me.



I guess inside I would always think "someone dogged them out" and NOW they want to come back to real. Problem is I am always real...And that is exactly what I want as well. Not to be someone's second choice after they have gotten played.



I try to live by the old saying, " If you keep doing the same thing you get the same results"



So to go back could surely mean I just may get the same results..