In keeping with the memory of my father, I would like to share something. There is a joke going around that implies all of womens problems begin with men:
Menopause
Menstrual,
Mental Illness, etc
Fact is none of these belong to a man. A woman has to own them.
Looking at biblical scriptures it was Eve that made the decision to eat the apple, not Adam. Maybe it is womens decisions do affect men.
No one can be that selfish or self centered to blame everything on someone else.
My father was a good man. A honorable man. He put family first.
Then I married a man that had all the "standards" that most want in a man. He worked, paid bills and took care of home. I ignored his CHARACTER. Who is REALLY was. I allowed myself to be hoodwinked by the "good qualities".
You see women have to be accountable for what they allow or cause. We also have to remember many times we follow in our parents footsteps. I followed my fathers. He allowed someone that had low self worth to abuse his daughter. He didn't know how to protect me and love her at the same time.
I will always stand up for good man and hope that women begin to look at themselves. I was always protective of my dad, so today I refuse to hurt a good man. I would rather walk away if things aren't meant to be. I am not my mother.
I get personal emails from men that have been through allot from the hands of a woman. For most of them it began with their mother.
Mothers that abused them.
Mothers that lied to them about their father.
Mothers that denied them access to the father or the father to them because of bitterness or self centeredness.
Mothers that allow the son to talk down to her teaches him it is ok to disrespect a woman.
Neighbors or relatives that raped them. Some would brag at 14 how that sexy 25yr taught them all there is to know about sex. So they grow up knowing how to rock a womans world physically but never connecting emotionally. Some never connect sex and love.
Those whose mothers never encouraged them to work so they laid around the house while she worked, cleaned and cooked. Then when they looked for a woman, they insured they found one that allowed them to do the same.
They had mothers who didn't allow them to cry or show emotion and told to man up so they grew up thinking it was wrong to be compassionate.
Mothers that allow a man to come in and disrespect her, teaches the son it is ok to mistreat a woman
If they werent the best in sports they were called whimps so they stopped being vulnerable ad stepping outside their comfort zone.
A mother that does not protect her son
As women we have so much power over young men. Yes it would probably be great if a father was in the picture but if he isn't that is no excuse for a young man not to grow up to be a real man.
We also have to be compassionate and unselfish. Men also get raped . In the military though uncommon it happens. If it is hard for a woman to speak out imagine how a man feels.
As a child, if his mother allowed a man to beat and belittle him, imagine how he felt. He was never protected by the one who was supposed to do it.
No longer can a woman blame a man. A woman has got to learn good boundaries. A woman has got to be accountable for what she does to her children and allows.
Let's stop the cycle of blaming one another. Fact is NO ONE can continue to do to any of us unless we allow it.
So accept no less from someone else that you give. And be ready to give a good man what he deserves. And if you can't walk away.
Those no good men had mothers too....
Stop the cycle!
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